Sounds like a funny title, huh? I thought so when I was writing this. But the more I thought about it, the more I thought it’s a necessary concept to remind ourselves (wives): MAKE YOUR HUSBAND HAPPY!
Why should you make your husband happy?
- He deserves your love. Husbands work hard to provide for families. Husbands need to feel love from their wives. They thrive on this! For all that they do or even do not do, they still deserve to be shown love.
- You should show your love. It’s easy for anyone to be selfish. It takes work to be selfless. Thus this post! I know that I have to be reminded to make Hubby happy because I get caught up with life and forget! I should show my love to Hubby by finding ways to make him especially happy.
- The kids need to see a good example. Kids need to see Mom and Dad showing love. It gives them security in their family. It helps them to emulate loving actions and words to others.
- Do unto others as you would (wish to) have them do unto you. If your husband isn’t in the habit of making you happy, try it on him first. You just might see a change in his behavior towards you!
10 Ways to Make Your Husband Happy!
I got Hubby’s help with this list! I know that there are certain things I consciously do to make Hubby happy. But I know there are other things I haven’t thought of! So while this list is definitely NOT comprehensive, it’s a start!
1. Notice his superhero qualities.
Hubby is a superhero junkie! He’s seen all these superhero movies that have been released in the past several years. He buys those superhero t-shirts and wears them to work on casual Friday. And I know that he secretly would love to be an actual superhero! While that probably won’t ever happen, I can appreciate the superhero within!
Doesn’t every man want his woman to think of him as a superhero?!? So treat him like one! Notice those things that he says and does that are superhero-worthy! Call him “my hero”, like they do in the movies! Reward him with a big kiss when he says or does something, like they do in the movies! I think a man just wants to be appreciated. You can really build your husbands confidence with this!
2. Allow him to trust you.
Not every woman is trustworthy. Not every husband can actually trust his wife. Don’t be that woman! Stay true to your word, don’t hide things from your husbands and be proactive in your honesty.
It’s up to you and your actions whether your husband is able to trust you. If husbands feel as if they can trust wives, they are more at ease. It’s one less thing they have to worry about when they’re already battling the world every day. Build trust in your marriage!
3. Show interest.
Hubby has lots of interests that I don’t necessarily find incredibly appealing. Video games, mythology and astrophysics are just a few topics that I have to work at showing interest in. When he speaks I listen. I try to listen with the intention of asking a question or two and engaging in conversation about his interests.
4. Keep your home clean.
To some husbands, this is an area of importance and to others, it’s not high on the list. While Hubby appreciates the time and effort I put into keeping our home clean, it’s not something he’s a stickler about. But I will say, when he walks through the door at the end of the day and he comes into a welcoming, clean home, he’s appreciative. He realizes the time it takes. He realizes that it’s a way I show him that he’s loved and important.
5. Praise him!
No matter how small the task or how insignificant the compliment may be, praise your husband! Anyone likes recognition for a job well done no matter how small! But Hubby’s need praise! They need to feel important and like your king!
Don’t fall into the rut of being a negative Nelly! Yes, maybe Hubby could’ve done a better job of mopping the floor. BUT, he did take the initiative to do it. So praise him for doing that! And if you’re at a loss, find something to praise him about!
- Thank you for working hard for us today.
- Thank you for taking out the trash!
- You did such a good job cleaning the car!
- I appreciate when you take time for fun with the kids!
- I love how you always kiss me when you walk in the door!
- You look handsome today!
6. Make his favorite foods!
One way to man’s heart is through his stomach. It’s old saying but a true saying! Hubby likes to be doted upon. He loves it when I bake cookies or one of his favorite meals. It screams to him that I love him! He knows that I’m listening when he tells me he likes a particular meal. And when I make it especially for him, he feels loved!
7. Greet him with a kiss!
Hubby walks through the door every day and expects a hug and kiss from me. I’m happy to give them because I miss him when he’s gone all day and I want him to know we are happy to have him home! But greeting him with a kiss doesn’t always happen in the best attitude on my part.
As you mothers know, keeping a schedule with children around can be challenging. If the kids have had a rough day, it wears on you! And by the time Hubby comes home, you might be ready to pull your hair out! So that welcome home kiss may be less than desirable. I know I have to work at being pleasant and loving when it comes to greeting Hubby if my day has been a bad one. This one thing can be of great encouragement to him!
8. Set aside time just for him.
Life gets really busy sometimes. Children can be demanding. And alone-time with Hubby can get pushed to the end of the list. I have to consciously make time for Hubby in my schedule. That doesn’t mean he’s just another item to mark off! No way! But I’ve found that if things don’t get scheduled, they don’t get done! And there’s no shame in scheduling time with Hubby; it means I’m being proactive in my marriage!
The length of time is insignificant. As long as he knows that he’s got your attention and love for any length of time, he’s happy. Activity is insignificant as well. The point is to let Hubby know you love him by setting aside time for just him. Put away the laundry. Don’t get on your computer. Stop talking on the phone. Just be with him.
9. Make time for sex.
With a new baby in our home, I’m amazed at how time alone is so rare! The few minutes that Hubby and I have together when we are completely alone and baby is asleep are precious minutes. These days we have to plan for any intimate time together. Baby is on a feeding and sleeping schedule that pretty much works like clockwork. So I have to make sure baby isn’t napping in our room, That I’ve prepared myself adequately & that I can delay dinner or guests so that we are able to have time together.
The point is that it’s difficult right now to spontaneously be intimate. I have to plan! But it’s important to Hubby, so I do it. It makes him happy, so I plan! I actually made THIS GAME for our intimate times together and he loves it!
10. Make him feel like a king.
Don’t we women love to be doted on? Pedicures, bouquets of flowers, chick flicks: these are things we love to be given! Well, men have the same desire: to feel like a king!
Let Hubby play his video games a little longer while you take care of kids. Prepare Hubby’s favorite dessert just because! Have his slippers and robe ready when he comes in the door. There are ways that only you know of that will make your husband feel like royalty. So take the time to do it!
BONUS! A few extra tips:
11. Don’t belittle him.
Sometime Hubby’s interests or hobbies seem silly to me. But that doesn’t mean I should belittle those things. My respect and love for him should not stop because his activities aren’t something I would do. When in an argument, you should never belittle each other’s character or activities. It’s an easy thing to belittle. It’s hard to respect sometimes but especially in an argument.
Belittling is the opposite of making any husband happy. Husbands will feel disrespected. And respect is something that they desperately need.
12. Don’t mother him.
Women, wives, mothers are wired to instruct and teach. It’s easy to order husbands around. They may not be as familiar with the kitchen or it’s contents as you are. They may not be as educated in caring for children as you may have been. But that’s no excuse for giving orders unlovingly to them. They didn’t get married to be mothered. They got married to be loved.
Show your love by refusing to mother! It’s almost as if you have to switch gears when husbands come home. You must consciously refuse to have a mothering attitude toward them!